Everybody has an inner dialogue. However, the way we talk to and about ourselves sometimes can be abusive or negative. In uncertain times, how we talk about ourselves can make or break our day. Here are seven ways you can improve your self-talk. This will help increase your optimism and well-being.
Do not talk about my friend like that
One man said to a friend, who was being negative and hard on herself, “Don’t talk about my friend that way!” This is a great reminder to be kind to ourselves. Sometimes we don’t notice the negative things we do or how we talk about ourselves. To improve our inner dialogue, we must first notice our negative traits and stop being unkind or unfair. Many of us wouldn’t describe our enemies in the same negative terms that we describe ourselves. You can stop this tendency.
Breathe
Research has shown that different types of breathing have a positive effect on mental health. This is based on decades of research. If you find yourself being rude to yourself, you should stop and take a few minutes to focus on your breathing. No matter what type of breathing you do, disrupting your thought patterns can help you change your mental processes. Intentional breathing will improve your physical well-being. You might feel grateful for the fact that breathing is the most basic aspect of human life. Not everyone can breathe right now.
Gratitude List
Recognizing all the little things you are grateful for can make a big difference, especially for people who suffer from depression and other mental health issues. You can think of all the little things you do in a day, such as making your bed, getting dressed, and walking the dog. Although it may seem small, these are important accomplishments that you can count on when you’re feeling unwell or stressed. Don’t forget to appreciate any gift from others, such as a text message, a handshake, or a smile from someone new. We may discover that our lives are a lot more positive if we pay attention to the small things.
Change your focus
Gratitude lists can be a great way to focus on and highlight what is going well. Find positive things to do each day and highlight them. You can feel uplifted by spending your morning on your balcony, sipping tea and admiring the birds. Make it a priority. Notice how your dog treats you if he or she looks at it lovingly. Your heart should be filled with joy.
Love kindness with all your heart
Negative self-talk highlights our worst qualities and tells us we are not good people. Loving kindness acknowledges our positive qualities, safety, generosity and connection. To practice loving kindness, the easiest way is to be aware of what you are good at. Sometimes, this can be expressed in the form a personal prayer. “I appreciate being safe and having a healthy breakfast before me.” “I’m grateful that Shirley is my friend and that I was able help her with her car.” Having positive self-talk and recognizing the bright side of our lives can make us feel more optimistic.
Feel Your Feelings
Sometimes life can bring you terrible experiences. People die. We lose the jobs that we love. We experience unrequited love. People we trusted are able to betray us. People we trusted betrayed us. It is okay to feel pain and anger. You can feel your emotions with people you trust. Expressions of emotion, no matter how uncomfortable, allow you to let those feelings go so that you can be present for the good things that come.
Change Your Story
Our worldview is shaped by the stories we tell about ourselves. You will feel the negative effects of telling yourself that your partner or job is bad, draining or not worth it. Change if you feel that the situation or relationship you are in is not right for you. You don’t have to be a victim.
You can change your outlook on the world by changing how you view it. Recall your gratitude list and the loving kindness that you show yourself. Change the way you see your life. You will see yourself and your world from a positive perspective. Your self-talk and outlook will improve. You don’t need to lie to your self. Good people can experience bad things. You can still focus on the positive and use your inner dialogue as a way to support yourself through bad times.
